I've been thinking a lot about what makes a good friend, and more importantly if I am a good friend to others. I mean, we all have our short comings, and I recognize mine. I'm picky with who I want to be around, but does that make me childish or dare I say -- UNREASONABLE? I just feel like life is short, so why spend it with people you aren't comfortable around?
In my weekend reflection about this, I realized that good friends shouldn't ever judge or attack you for having different beliefs or habits than them, they shouldn't call you names or make you feel bad. They should nurture and support you. They should make you feel comfortable to say and talk about anything, they should support you (unless its a dangerous or horrible thing you want to do/ are about to do-- than this should be voided) and most importantly they should be loyal and trustworthy. This is the type of friend that I want to be and that I hope I have been. This is the type of friend that I want to spend time with.
I want to feel 100% comfortable with them and them with me. I want to travel with them, I want to be able to talk about anything and introduce them to anyone without feeling like they have ulterior motives. I want them to be able to have their own happy life and if we don't speak for a long time and we see each other again, we just pick it up from where we left off the last time, full of love and happiness. I want to laugh and cry with my friend and love them unconditionally. I guess in a way its similar to a romantic relationship, and those are difficult to maintain. Friendship is as well, but like any good relationship, it needs nurturing and openness.
But I have to keep in mind, we are only human, right? And humans are not perfect beings...
What do others think about this?
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